Men and Women in the Church

Date: May 4, 2014
Study: In His Image: Biblical Manhood, Womanhood, and Relationships
Teacher: Kameron Slater

REVIEW OF BIBLICAL MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD

  • Genesis 1:26-27: Men and women are created in God’s Image. They are equal in glory, honor, value, dignity and worth.
  • Genesis 2Men are created by God to be the spiritual leader, obey God’s commands, and to protect women. Women are created by God to be man’s helper. They have a unique role and distinct responsibilities to strengthen and assist.
  • 1 Corinthians 11:1: The roles and responsibilities that men and women have are a reflection of God’s Trinitarian character.

MEN AND WOMEN IN THE CHURCH
There are some clear distinctions in the roles of men and women, but for the most part there are significant similarities in the ways men and women are called and equipped by God to participate in the work of the gospel and the ministry of the local church.  Continue reading

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Distortions of Biblical Sexuality

Date: April 27, 2014
Study: In His Image: Biblical Manhood, Womanhood, and Relationships
Teacher: Lawson Hembree

REVIEW
Three Aspects of God’s Purpose for Sex:

  1. Expression of One-Flesh Union Between Husband and Wife
  2. Pleasure
  3. Procreation

Two Ways to Uphold God’s Design for Sex:

  1. Flee Sexual Immorality
  2. Pursue Sexual Purity

Sexuality is a beautiful gift from God for believers within the context of marriage. True biblical sexuality brings glory to God by displaying the intimate one-flesh union of a husband and wife as a picture of Christ and His church while also bringing pleasure to the couple as they seek to obey the command to be fruitful and multiply. Striving for that ideal in not only the way we act, but also in the way we think and talk is a powerful way to preserve and promote the God-intended purpose for sex.

INTRODUCTION
Christians are often accused of being obsessed with sex. How should we respond to these claims? Instead of getting defensive, we should say that we’re concerned about sexual behavior and norms precisely because of the way they distort God’s design for marriage as a picture of Christ’s exclusive covenant relationship with His Church. We should say that we guard God’s commandments regarding sex because violation of those commandments will produce social chaos. Sexual behavior and sexual norms are a key barometer of social health. We see the devastating effects of sexual immorality in Romans 1. If things are disordered in our bedrooms, they will likely be disordered in boardrooms and political offices.

HISTORY OF SEXUAL ETHICS
Why is a biblical sexual ethic so important? In the Old Testament Levitical code: God separated His people, Israel, from the surrounding nations in a variety of ways—including their sexual ethic (Leviticus 18; 20:24). Marriage itself is a type of separation that involved “leaving” and “clinging” (Genesis 2:24). Through Jesus, God is redeeming the world and part of that redeeming work is the separation of the church from the world. The church is the holy people of God, and as the holy people, the church is called, like Israel, to maintain the boundaries that are constitutive of the new creation. One of the chief boundaries is the difference between Christian and worldly sexual conduct, and sexual expectations and norms. The new creation is church-separated-from-world.

Paul’s teachings on sexual purity and marriage were adopted as liberating in the sexually exploitive Greco-Roman culture of the time—exploitive especially of slaves and women, whose value to pagan males lay chiefly in their ability to produce children and provide sexual pleasure. Christianity started a cultural revolution: restraining and channeling male drive, elevating the status of both women and of the human body, and infusing marriage—and marital sexuality—with love. Within Christianity, sex takes on a new and different meaning– one that mandated a radical change of behavior and cultural norms. And ultimately within Christianity, marriage is a picture of the gospel.

Fast forward to today where Western culture has ceased to believe in the Christian framework as the foundation for society. However, with Christianity “out of the way,” Western thought has made it impossible to believe in any other framework that does what culture must do: restrain individual passions and channel them creatively toward the overall good of society. In other words, the role of culture has been inverted. Instead of teaching us what we must deprive ourselves of to be civilized, we have a society that tells us we find meaning and purpose in releasing ourselves from the old prohibitions. As a result, the church is constantly pressured to adapt or abandon its view of biblical sexuality to accommodate the spirit of the age. Insofar as the church has abandoned God’s commandments regarding sex, to that extent she has weakened the call to holiness in the world.

DISTORTIONS OF BIBLICAL SEXUALITY (Romans 1:16-32; 1 Corinthians 6:9-20)
In Romans 1:18-23, we see that one of the common expressions of this exchange of God’s glory for personal glory is dysfunctional forms of sexual pleasure. With our definition of God’s purpose for sex and this historical background, here are a few prevalent distortions of biblical sexuality (there are many more, but these are the most pressing and relevant for our study):

  1. Homosexuality
    Recommended articles:

    1. God and the Gay Christian? A Response to Matthew Vines (free ebook)
    2. Why Homosexuality Is Not Like Other Sins
    3. Hope for the Homosexual
    4. Four Ways to Respond to the Gay Community
    5. Jesus, You Are Enough
  2. Porn/Erotic Novels/Masturbation
    Recommended articles:

    1. Pornography: The New Narcotic
    2. I Hate Porn
    3. 50 Shades of Porn
    4. Self-Centered Sex (Part 1 || Part 2)
    5. Biblical Perspectives on Sex and Autoeroticism (Part 1 || Part 2)
  3. Recreational Sex/Cohabitation
    Recommended articles:

    1. Christianity and Sexuality
    2. The Downside of Cohabiting Before Marriage
  4. Divorce
    Recommended articles:

    1. Until Death Do We Part–For Real
    2. Broken Vows
  5. Adultery
    Recommended articles:

    1. You Aren’t Safe From Adultery
    2. Amazing Grace in the Wreckage of Adultery

 

One-Flesh Union? Pleasure? Procreation?
Biblical Sexuality Yes Yes Yes
Homosexuality No Yes No
Porn/Erotic Novels/Masturbation No Yes No
Recreational Sex/Cohabitation No Yes No
Divorce No Yes/No No
Adultery No Yes No

CONCLUSION
How are we as Christians to respond to those who struggle with distorted sexual desires and sin? The same way that Paul did in Romans 1:16-17 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-11: with the hope of the gospel. John Piper once said, “God’s judgment on sin is not because He is a killjoy, but because He is opposed to what kills joy.”

On a practical level, this leads to a combination of biblical conviction and personal compassion: conviction that perverted sexual behavior is sinful, perverse, and destructive to individuals and culture, combined with a willingness to lay down our lives in love for those struggling with sexual sin. To truly love them, we must believe it is harmful and sinful (1 Corinthians 13:6) and not seek to approve of, tolerate, or rejoice in their sin. This isn’t to imply that they have less dignity or are not made in God’s image by any means. The most loving thing you can tell any sinner is that their sin is wrong, separates them from God, and deserves his just wrath (Romans 1:18; 6:23). Follow that up with sharing the hope of the gospel: despite our sinfulness and willing rejection of his revealed truth (Romans 1:18-23), God sent his only Son to die in our place in order to make atonement for our sin (Romans 5:6-11;Hebrews 2:14-15). Salvation is offered to those that would repent of their sins and place their faith in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior (Mark 1:15; Romans 6:1-1110:8-102 Peter 1:3-11). True salvation is evidenced by a changed lifestyle: living for the glory of God instead of the glory of man (1 John). However, just because a person becomes a Christian doesn’t mean that their sinful desires will automatically disappear. It means that we now war against the sin in our life (Romans 8:12-14Colossians 3:1-17).

RESOURCES AND FURTHER READING
Finally Free by Heath Lambert
Sexual Detox by Tim Challies
What is the Meaning of Sex? by Denny Burk
Love Into Light by Peter Hubbard
Washed and Waiting by Wesley Hill
Sex After Christianity”on The American Conservative

 

Biblical Sexuality and Sexual Purity

Date: April 13, 2014
Study: In His Image: Biblical Manhood, Womanhood, and Relationships
Teacher: Lawson Hembree

REVIEW
Biblical Manhood-The essence of Biblical masculinity is a sense of benevolent responsibility to lead, provide for and protect women in ways appropriate to a man’s differing relationships.
Biblical Womanhood- The essence of Biblical femininity is a freeing disposition to affirm, receive, and nurture strength and leadership from worthy men in ways appropriate to a woman’s differing relationships.
Biblical Marriage– The sexual and covenantal union of a man and a woman in life-long allegiance to each other alone, as husband and wife, with a view to displaying Christ’s covenant relationship to his blood-bought church.

INTRODUCTION

When it comes to teaching on and talking about sex at church, it’s hard to imagine a topic that is at the same time more awkward and more important.

Awkward because of the way our culture has sensationalized the sexual experience and saturated our minds with it’s unrealistic and yet tantalizing images; awkward because sex between married couples is personal but not exactly private—we all sort of politely pretend sex doesn’t happen, and at the same time happy to celebrate someone getting pregnant and the birth of each new baby!

But at the same time it’s important. In the age of AIDS, STDs, abortion, and addictions, sex, when perverted, has the ability to forever alter and destroy lives. Important because it stands at the center of our experience of what it means to be married; important because more than anything else in this life, it gives expression to a physical intimacy and pleasure and joy that ultimately points beyond itself, to the intimacy and pleasure and joy we will know for all eternity in union with Christ. In fact, sexuality is so important that a whole book of the Bible, Song of Solomon, was dedicated to it.

Unfortunately, the church in general has disregarded a healthy theology related to sexuality beyond the “don’t do this” or “don’t do that” approach. Few churches, youth groups, or even Christian parents take the time to instruct young people on sexual purity from a gospel perspective. Combine these two factors with a hypersexual culture, and you have a generation of young men and women with a flawed view of love and sexuality as well as an increased bondage and addiction to sexual sin.

Since it is such an important and often overlooked topic, we are going to spend some time talking about sexuality from a biblical perspective. Why did God create sexual intimacy?  What is it for? And how do we protect and cultivate that intimacy in marriage?  Continue reading

Biblical Marriage

Date: March 30 and April 6, 2014
Study: In His Image: Biblical Manhood, Womanhood, and Relationships
Teacher: Blaine Hubbard

DEFINITION: Biblical marriage is the sexual and covenantal union of a man and a woman in life-long allegiance to each other alone, as husband and wife, with a view to displaying Christ’s covenant relationship to his blood-bought church.

FOUR PASSAGES DEFINING BIBLICAL MARRIAGE:

  1. Genesis 1:27–28
    Men and women are both created in God’s image. They are equal in value and dignity as His special creation. Additionally, men and women have been given unique gender roles that complement each other and allow them to reflect distinct qualities of God’s character.
  2. Genesis 2:23–24
    God created humans as male and female so that there might be a one-flesh sexual union and covenantal cleaving with a view to multiplying the human race, and displaying God’s covenant with his people, and eventually Christ’s covenant with his church.
  3. Matthew 19:4–6
    Remarkably, Jesus picked up on this link between the pre-Fall creation order and marriage as a life-long covenant. In this passage from Matthew, Jesus weaves the two Genesis texts together to show not only the definition of marriage, but also the danger of divorce.
  4. Ephesians 5:24–32
    This text on the meaning of marriage makes the distinction between male and female — husband and wife — covenantally significant as a portrayal of Christ and the church. In other words, from the beginning there has been a mysterious and profound meaning to marriage. It is important to note that Christ and the Church don’t illustrate marriage, marriage illustrates Christ and the Church. Paul refers to it a “mystery”: that God made men and women with their distinctive feminine and masculine natures and their distinctive roles so that in marriage as husband and wife they could display Christ and the church.
    This means that the basic roles of wife and husband are not interchangeable. The husband displays the sacrificial love of Christ’s headship, and the wife displays the submissive role of Christ’s body, the Church. The mystery of marriage is that God had this picture in mind when he created humans as male and female. Therefore, the profoundest reality in the universe underlies marriage as a covenantal union between a man and a woman.

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Dating and Courtship

Date: March 23, 2014
Study: In His Image: Biblical Manhood, Womanhood, and Relationships
Teacher: Kameron Slater

REVIEW:
The goal of Christian relationships: spur one another on to greater faith, love, self-sacrifice, and maturity.
Types of relationships for singles in the church:

  1. Other same-sex single adults
  2. Opposite-sex single adults
  3. The rest of Christian community
    1. Families
    2. Senior adults
    3. Children and youth

DATING AND COURTSHIP

What is the difference between dating and courtship?
The word “courtship” often brings to mind images of horse drawn buggies and people in fancy outfits sipping tea. It feels like “ancient” terminology.  The term “dating” is our cultures common term for the relationship between a man and woman that precedes marriage. Both terms—dating and courtship—are loaded with baggage and essentially synonymous, so what term we use isn’t as important as defining the concept biblically.  Continue reading

Singleness and Relationships

Date: March 16, 2014
Study: In His Image: Biblical Manhood, Womanhood, and Relationships
Teacher: Lawson Hembree

REVIEW

  • Definition of a Christian Single: Those in our church community who have the opportunity and freedom to use their gifts in undivided devotion to the Lord.
  • As Christians, identity confusion occurs when we let the things of this world define us more than God’s Word. God’s perspective on our identity should be primary. Your fundamental identity as a single adult is that of a Christian.

SINGLENESS AND RELATIONSHIPS
The Basics of Christian Relationships:

  1. Care, concern, service and self-sacrifice
  2. Interest and knowledge
  3. Encouragement to grow spiritually
  4. Love
  5. Purity
  • Priority: Membership in a Local Church

Three Categories of Relationships within the Church Community

  1. Relating to Other Same-Sex Single Adults
    Blessings
    :
    -Similar life issues and struggles
    -Have more freedom and time than families typically do
    Downfalls:
    -Generally have less wisdom available
  2. Relating to Opposite-SexSingle Adults
    -Friendship among single men and women is an important part of being brothers and sisters in Christ in the same church
  3. Relating to the Rest of the Community
    -Relating to Families
    -Relating to Seniors
    -Relating to Children and Youth

Why Relationships Are Important

  1. Fight Idolatry (Romans 1:25)
  2. Combat Loneliness (Deuteronomy 31:8; John 14:18)
  3. Encourage Contentment (Philippians 4:10-20)

 

Resources and Further Reading
Singleness and Courtship: Lessons 3 & 4. Capital Hill Core Seminars. (http://www.capitolhillbaptist.org/we-equip/adults/core-seminars/)
Relationships: A Mess Worth Making by Timothy S. Lane and Paul David Tripp
Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood. Edited by John Piper and Wayne Grudem
The Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood. (http://cbmw.org/)

Singleness and Identity

Date: March 9, 2014
Study: In His Image: Biblical Manhood, Womanhood, and Relationships
Teacher: Kameron Slater

Knowing your identity is essential to a healthy life. Our identity is made up of several different facets: age, gender, marital status, career, major in college, interests, etc. Up until the 1950s/60s, only 5% of the US population (on average) was single. In 2008, the number has increased to 40% is still on the rise. There are three temptations when it comes to singleness:

  1. Church culture- Sometimes in Christianity, marriage is trumpeted as a major accomplishment or the norm that everyone should strive for.
  2. Parental pressure- Once a young adult reaches a certain age, parents may begin to inadvertently pressure their children towards marriage with talk of grandchildren, etc.
  3. Personal struggle- For singles, it can often feel like a part of their identity is incomplete until they are married.

Single adults must realize that their identity is much more than a certain marital status and there is nothing subpar or incomplete about being single. In fact, as Christians, there is really one primary thing we find our identity in: our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Definition of Single: Those men and women in the church community who have the opportunity and freedom to use their gifts in undivided devotion to the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7:1-2, 32-35)

Perspectives on Christian Singleness:    Continue reading