Dating and Courtship

Date: March 23, 2014
Study: In His Image: Biblical Manhood, Womanhood, and Relationships
Teacher: Kameron Slater

REVIEW:
The goal of Christian relationships: spur one another on to greater faith, love, self-sacrifice, and maturity.
Types of relationships for singles in the church:

  1. Other same-sex single adults
  2. Opposite-sex single adults
  3. The rest of Christian community
    1. Families
    2. Senior adults
    3. Children and youth

DATING AND COURTSHIP

What is the difference between dating and courtship?
The word “courtship” often brings to mind images of horse drawn buggies and people in fancy outfits sipping tea. It feels like “ancient” terminology.  The term “dating” is our cultures common term for the relationship between a man and woman that precedes marriage. Both terms—dating and courtship—are loaded with baggage and essentially synonymous, so what term we use isn’t as important as defining the concept biblically.  Continue reading

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Singleness and Relationships

Date: March 16, 2014
Study: In His Image: Biblical Manhood, Womanhood, and Relationships
Teacher: Lawson Hembree

REVIEW

  • Definition of a Christian Single: Those in our church community who have the opportunity and freedom to use their gifts in undivided devotion to the Lord.
  • As Christians, identity confusion occurs when we let the things of this world define us more than God’s Word. God’s perspective on our identity should be primary. Your fundamental identity as a single adult is that of a Christian.

SINGLENESS AND RELATIONSHIPS
The Basics of Christian Relationships:

  1. Care, concern, service and self-sacrifice
  2. Interest and knowledge
  3. Encouragement to grow spiritually
  4. Love
  5. Purity
  • Priority: Membership in a Local Church

Three Categories of Relationships within the Church Community

  1. Relating to Other Same-Sex Single Adults
    Blessings
    :
    -Similar life issues and struggles
    -Have more freedom and time than families typically do
    Downfalls:
    -Generally have less wisdom available
  2. Relating to Opposite-SexSingle Adults
    -Friendship among single men and women is an important part of being brothers and sisters in Christ in the same church
  3. Relating to the Rest of the Community
    -Relating to Families
    -Relating to Seniors
    -Relating to Children and Youth

Why Relationships Are Important

  1. Fight Idolatry (Romans 1:25)
  2. Combat Loneliness (Deuteronomy 31:8; John 14:18)
  3. Encourage Contentment (Philippians 4:10-20)

 

Resources and Further Reading
Singleness and Courtship: Lessons 3 & 4. Capital Hill Core Seminars. (http://www.capitolhillbaptist.org/we-equip/adults/core-seminars/)
Relationships: A Mess Worth Making by Timothy S. Lane and Paul David Tripp
Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood. Edited by John Piper and Wayne Grudem
The Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood. (http://cbmw.org/)

Singleness and Identity

Date: March 9, 2014
Study: In His Image: Biblical Manhood, Womanhood, and Relationships
Teacher: Kameron Slater

Knowing your identity is essential to a healthy life. Our identity is made up of several different facets: age, gender, marital status, career, major in college, interests, etc. Up until the 1950s/60s, only 5% of the US population (on average) was single. In 2008, the number has increased to 40% is still on the rise. There are three temptations when it comes to singleness:

  1. Church culture- Sometimes in Christianity, marriage is trumpeted as a major accomplishment or the norm that everyone should strive for.
  2. Parental pressure- Once a young adult reaches a certain age, parents may begin to inadvertently pressure their children towards marriage with talk of grandchildren, etc.
  3. Personal struggle- For singles, it can often feel like a part of their identity is incomplete until they are married.

Single adults must realize that their identity is much more than a certain marital status and there is nothing subpar or incomplete about being single. In fact, as Christians, there is really one primary thing we find our identity in: our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Definition of Single: Those men and women in the church community who have the opportunity and freedom to use their gifts in undivided devotion to the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7:1-2, 32-35)

Perspectives on Christian Singleness:    Continue reading